It made me sad to think that the thing that was most important my life в my faith в was something that I could never fully share with my husband. Or the links, in that first vision one. Nothing less will do. I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule.
I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc. This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question. Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl. We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. Although with the change in times, people may not follow these rules as stringently as before, it is still better to be careful so as to not offend anyone, and you may possibly land up with the love of your life. I decided not to answer his calls for some time to think. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her.
So it is going to be over anyway. My boyfriend is in his second year of residency, and I'm still adjusting to this new situation. If your relationship has gotten very serious, your girlfriend will probably try to find agreement in your faiths. Of course it is impossible Anyways, I am sorry to go on and on. And I resent being viewed as just the wife of a doctor rather than my own person with her own accomplishments and aspirations. I feel you on the loneliness. It is a tradeoff at best.
It's up to you to decide whether or not this is someone worth waiting for. These are nice people. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. Because Mormons retain old-fashioned values, Mormon girls are raised in a traditional environment by good fathers. Just know what your getting into.